It's finally done, after dragging it for 6 weeks. Supposed to be completed in a months time but there were way too many unforseen circumstances that hindered the renovation progress. I began to feel some cosiness in the house with the arrival of some electricals.
It's really a good learning experience for Mr. P and myself. Terms like "laminates", "solid surface", "pelmet", "plaster board", "feature wall" etc are being used so commonly. "Property tax", "TV license", "conservatory charges" are also being added to my dictionary.
We started the clean up over the weekend and today, my princess hands are being worn out by broken skins.. :( . This is just the first chapter of the sacrifice...I guess this is just part of married life...
Apart from going to and fro my new house, I was also busy with my guest lists. The sad part is.. I denounced a friend ( technically 3 friends ) in the process.
Q been asking for my wedding date umpteen times. The last time was 1 week before my formal verbal invitation. That was the 3rd time. I chided her online when she asked me for the date, saying that she needs to plan her holidays. I claimed that it was a double date, supposed to be very easy to remember. Furthermore, I expected more from her since she my friend of 16 years. When I started my mass messaging a week later, she did not reply till 3 days later. She was away from a holiday with Y ( her bf ) and J ( her best friend ), both whom are my guests. So Q represented the other 2 and told me that they could not make it for my big day because they have planned a trip to Bali and could not cancel the trip because they are travelling in a group of 10. Damn! So what's the point of asking for my wedding date when they have no intention to remember the date? So what happened to the other 2? They just kept mum.
This totally pissed me off. I can understand when people can't turn up when they have their holidays planned. What I can't stand is that she is the only friend that asked me so many times, don't bother to remember and planned her holiday on that date. The best part is that 3 of them can't turn up and I do not want to invite a few others whom I planned to seat them with. They might get bored.
This incident was the final straw to how Q regarded me as a friend... There were previous incidents that made me wonder if it's worth keeping this friendship. The most unforgettable incident was once she made an appointment with me for dinner in town. Knowing that she has the habit of being late, I asked her to let me know what roughly what time she'll arrive. After 2 SMSes and 1 missed call, I decided to walk around our meeting place first. She SMSed me 10 min later saying that she just woke up and would not be meeting me WITHOUT ANY APOLOGY. I left town in anger and hunger. After this incident, we stayed out of contact for a year or so, till she asked me out occasionally for meals. I did not bring out my displeasure over the incident anymore till the day she informed me that she'll be absent. Her last sms was "I'm sorry if I've made you feel this way ( disregarded ). I left it as it is, and in my heart, she's no longer there. This has upset me a few days I'm not sure why. On top of that people whom I wished to attend couldn't make it, rubbing it in.
After a few days of cooling down, I began to feel happy that those whom I did not expect to turn up had actually made time for it. But I'm prepared to get some last minute absentees. The problem with me is that I tend to take things to personally. And I'm too pessimisstic. I should learn to appreciate those who make effort to turn up instead of dwelling on those who are insincere. To me, being present is important, but it's the thought that counts most.
I would only enjoy the day if my guests do too.
